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How to Work from Home as an Online Dating Ghostwriter

Are you a regular Cyrano de Bergerac with your writing? Are you able to see and write about a person’s best qualities, and present their flaws as endearing quirks? Then you just might have what it takes to become an online dating ghostwriter.

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When people are on dating sites, people quickly browse photos and profiles before deciding on whether they’re someone who’s worth talking to.

So aside from a gorgeous photo, people on dating apps want their profiles to be as engaging as possible.

The problem is, not everyone can write in an attention-grabbing way, and that’s where ghostwriters can help.

In today’s article, you’ll learn what an online dating ghostwriter does and how to start working from home as one.

What Does an Online Dating Ghostwriter Do?

As far as freelance writing jobs go, creating dating profiles is a bit out of the ordinary, but no less legit.

An online dating ghostwriter helps their clients create interesting profiles on dating apps.

Their clients are usually those who suck at writing or those for whom English is not the first language but who want to be understood clearly.

What happens, though, when a client matches with someone they like but they can’t maintain the conversation?

Online dating ghostwriters can help further by keeping the conversation flowing. Essentially, they pretend to be their clients, at least until their clients feel ready to take over or actually meet their match in person.

What skills do you need to have?

It does take a certain skill set to be great at this job.

You’ll have to be able to write in a creative and engaging way that mirrors your potential client, whether they’re male or female and whatever their sexual orientation may be.

Knowing how to inject just the right amount of humor into your writing will be a plus factor. A profile that’s funny enough to make potential dates smile makes your clients sound confident but not too full of themselves.

Having a great personality also goes a long way toward building rapport with clients and getting more. They have to be able to trust you enough to have you write their profiles and chat on their behalf if they want you to.

How much can a dating app ghostwriter make?

Depending on your level of experience and expertise, you can start charging $80 to $100 per profile. Some veteran dating writers can make $200 to $300 per profile.

If you get a job chatting and messaging with your clients’ potential dates, you can start making $13 to $17 per hour, which can go up to $30 to even $50 an hour for more experienced ghostwriters.

As your experience grows and your satisfied clientele grows in number, you can charge higher fees if you’re going freelance on your own, or ask for a raise if you work for an agency or a dating site.

Where To Apply for Online Dating Ghostwriter Jobs

Now that you know a bit more about being a ghostwriter, here are some places where you can find online dating ghostwriter jobs.

1. Dating Assistant Websites

Helping people find love is an entire industry, so it shouldn’t be a surprise that dating assistants are a thing. Here are some dating assistant websites that often have openings for dating site ghostwriters.


Virtual Dating Assistants is an Atlanta-based matchmaking and elite dating service that helps their clients identify and highlight their best characteristics to ensure they get dates with their most compatible matches.

They continually hire contractors for their writing services. To apply, email careers[at]VIDAselect[dot]com with the subject line “VIDA Select Creative Writer” with a short video introducing yourself. When your application has been reviewed, you’ll get contacted for a phone interview. If they think you’re qualified, you’ll be invited to complete an assessment, and if you pass that, you’ll be offered the job.

Personal Dating Assistants

This site caters mostly to men seeking women for love and companionship. Personal dating assistants are expected to do a number of tasks on a part-time to full-time basis:

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As you can probably tell from the duties described above, PDA offers a suite of services for its clients, from profile creation to date coaching and beyond. As a contracted writer, you would probably be hired to write dating profiles, emails, and text exchanges.

The pay is $14 per hour, plus a 30% performance bonus for outstanding assistants.

The PDA application procedure is interesting, to say the least. You are expected to talk about your dating history as evidence that you can do this job. Links to your personal website and online dating profile are appreciated.’s dating coaches have helped over 25,000 singles improve their online dating lives since they started in 2005. They sometimes post openings for dating profile ghostwriters and dating coaches, but for now, email your resume to profilehelper[at]gmail[dot]com to be considered.

2. Start with a Google Search

Input the search term ‘online dating ghostwriter’ or ‘online dating assistant’ into Google and you’ll be served with several different search results that mention writing and rewriting of dating profiles. You’ll also find want ads for dating articles, which are not a bad way to get started in this line of work and may help eventually qualify you to work at ViDA and/or PDA.

3. Contact Online Dating Sites, Bumble, Tinder, eHarmony, and other online dating sites often post openings for online dating writers. It doesn’t hurt to reach out to them and inquire, even if there is nothing posted directly on the site. Alternately, you can try inputting online dating site names into job boards on Indeed, Monster, and GlassDoor.

4. Start Your Own Ghostwriting Service

Many online dating ghostwriters get their start by helping out their friends and colleagues with their dating profiles. If they are successful, they are often referred to others. This can snowball into a full-blown business, as evidenced by Scott Valdez of ViDA.

Ready to be a dating ghostwriter?

As an online dating site ghostwriter, you might raise a few eyebrows regarding the ethical implications of your side gig.

What you do—and won’t do—for your clients will likely need to be established and then reestablished several times. This gig will also give you a newfound appreciation of the nuances of human psychology. At least it won’t be a boring job, and it will certainly help you out in your own dating experiences.

Plus, it can give you a chance to eventually become a dating consultant and even start your own business and make a living out of it.

Planning to work as a dating ghostwriter or dating virtual assistant soon? Tell us how it goes in the comments!

5 thoughts on “How to Work from Home as an Online Dating Ghostwriter”

  1. Hi Steve,
    As a woman, I know how to coach a man in the romance to die for category. I wrote a book, NOT YOU AGAIN!
    Been married and divorced twice. Got to know myself. Men are not articulate. I understand they are not allowed to show feelings so how do you capture the woman of your dreams, your soulmate? I would be
    perfect for this job. I understand what women want and need and how they think.
    Been there…made all the mistakes.
    This is GREAT!!!!

  2. Hi Steve
    I have checked out your website and I would like to say that it is very interesting to me. I do not think that I would be able to be such a writer but I guess you have done your research into the topic and find that there is a need for the service.

    I have a question for you. What happens when the person you write to falls in love with your charm and writing, and gets to meet your client to find out that he or she can’t say all the romantic things like how you write to them?

    All the best to you my friend,

    Pelesio Kama.

  3. Hi Steve,

    I must say I am slightly shocked that this is happening, although I understand that certain people find it difficult to communicate with strangers. I have a question though. How does a ghost-writer know what to say when pretending to be that person? Also what about instant messaging. Surely most people communicate this way now with Facebook messenger, WhatsApp etc. Wouldn’t this mean a writer would have to communicate at all different times of the day? Sounds like someone’s phone would never leave their hands

  4. Wow, Steve! Do people really get paid for that? I”m 65 years old and have been married for 43 years, so I don’t think I could do it. It looks like a younger man’s game, or someone involved in the dating scene. Also, is it ethical? Pretending to be something you’re not to get a date is kind of pathetic, it seems to me. I guess I’m just old fashioned that way. Still, it’s a good, well written and informative post. Thanks.

    • I’d say it’s as ethical as hiring a ghost writing to write a book for you. Some people just don’t have the ability to write well and who’s to say that should leave them out of the dating pool? As long as they are representing themselves honestly, I see no issue with it.

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